The Right and Wrong Things to Say During the COVID-19 Pandemic

You’ve heard what to avoid doing during the pandemic. Here's what you should avoid saying.

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 It’s probably safe to assume that you’ve heard the tips that everyone needs to practice to stay physically safe during the COVID-19 pandemic — wash your hands, stay six feet apart from others, self-quarantine if you are feeling ill, wear a mask if you’re going outside. Oh, and wash your hands. But the mental and emotional health of people during this virus is also urgent and a significant thing to keep in mind. The way we discuss the pandemic will undoubtedly impact people’s mental health and, in a larger scale way, the way it is discussed defines who we are as a society and our humanity.

 As the Queen of England said in her address on April 5, “If we remain united and resolute, we will overcome it. I hope in the years to come, everyone will be able to take pride in how they responded to this challenge.”

The following advice, based on the advice of public officials, psychiatrists and other experts will help you think about the right ways to talk about the outbreak and its impacts on our world. 

 Avoid Downplaying the Amount of Deaths

You may have taken to reassuring yourself  that “only” a small percentage of people who are infected with the virus will face fatal results. A few weeks ago a Columbia University doctor who specializes in cardiology at New York Presbyterian, who prefers to not be identified, deconstructed some of the issues with nonchalantly waving these numbers around: “The issue is people don’t understand statistics. You have a 0.2% chance of dying if you’re under 30. But millions are exposed, of which tens of thousands will get infected; that means hundreds of young people will die.”

 Young to middle-aged people are also getting the coronavirus, despite the common idea that non-elderly folks are immune. In fact, patients between the ages of 20-54 compose 40% of hospitalizations, according to the CDC, as noted in the New York Times

 As of April 5, the United States has already lost over 8,000 people to COVID-19 and is predicted to lose up to 240,000 more precious lives even with shutdowns and shelter-in orders in place, according what the White House reported to Business Insider.

 Needless to say, the fatality rate of the virus is certainly nothing to downplay.

 Stick to calling it “COVID-19” or “the coronavirus”

For some time, President Donald Trump as well as some of his staff members and colleagues referred to COVID-19 as “the China virus” and the “Wuhan virus.” These blatantly xenophobic and racist titles come with major consequences for Asian communities. 

In fact, a couple of weeks ago an FBI intelligence report predicted a surge in hate crimes towards Asians as the pandemic worsens.

Boro Park Jewish Community Council CEO Avi Greenstein who governs a region of Brooklyn is quoted in an article by The Jerusalem Post that the Orthodox Jewish community in Brooklyn has also been experiencing some unwarranted anger and blame.

“The vast, vast majority of our community are abiding by guidelines,” Greenstein says. “But since we dress uniformly in a certain way, sometimes different things stand out, as opposed to when you would see thousands of people celebrating in concerts or bars and parks that are full.”

Nina Curran, a second-year student at New York University, says that being a Chinese-American in the current social climate means being unable to leave home without fear. She says with frustration, “my mom -- who was born in America, has not been to China in 12 years and does not have the virus--is afraid to leave the house by herself. My Korean hairdresser and her sister were both separately attacked on the LIRR and in Penn Station just because they’re Asian.”

Curran continues with a call to action, “Please be kind to your Asian friends and neighbors during this time and, if you can, support Asian-owned businesses because they’re [the businesses] hurting the most.”

 Remember that high productivity levels can’t be expected

Wait. You haven’t spent your quarantine becoming the next top chef, writing the next King Lear or becoming a musical genius? Guess what? Most of the world hasn’t. That’s okay, even despite what others may be telling you or what you may have been telling yourself. 

Chris Bailey, a productivity consultant and the author of Hyperfocus: How to Manage Your Attention in a World of Distraction, is quoted in a New York Times article saying, “It’s tough enough to be productive in the best of times let alone when we’re in a global crisis. We have much less attention because we’re living through so much.” It’s difficult to make productivity a primary focus when you simultaneously need to focus on getting through a global crisis. 

In other words, the standard of maintaining or increasing productivity during quarantine is unrealistic. Expecting it is immoral. Try to avoid filling the minds of others with the idea that they should accomplish an overload of things while indoors. 

Dr. Jud Brewer, a psychiatrist and neuroscientist specializing in anxiety and habit change, writes that what’s important to focus on right now is that you’re incorporating rituals and mindful moments into your lifestyle in order to help you “stay mentally healthy, calm, and connected as we navigate our new world order.” These rituals range from breathing exercises to short moments of mindfulness to cuddling. Each of these practices are both relaxing and scientifically proven to improve your emotional and physical wellbeing. 

Show Love to Healthcare Workers

If there’s one group of people we can deem to be our heroes right now, it’s our healthcare workers. Gov. Andrew Cuomo consistently expresses admiration and appreciation for these individuals and calls citizens to do the same. Gov. Cuomo said at a March 24 press conference,  "[Our healthcare workers] are doing God's work… You want to talk about extraordinary individuals - extraordinary. When you see them on the street, when you see them in a hospital, please, just say thank you and smile and say, I know what you're doing."

Some healthcare workers, too, have requests from average citizens: stay home and show empathy.

Sydni Lane, a registered nurse in Iowa, took to Instagram to describe the breaking point she had faced that day of “exhaustion and defeat” and her response to countless people then saying, “Isn’t this what you signed up for?” 

She responds, “Just no. I signed up to take care of sick patients, yes. I did not sign up to be unprotected by their sickness. I did not sign up to be yelled at by angry patients because our government failed to be prepared. I did not sign up to risk mine and my family’s health and safety because people wanted to go on their vacations after they were told not to.”

Saying thank you to healthcare workers is not only the least you can do for them, it’s also the least you can do for yourself. Various studies, including one done at Harvard Medical School, prove that practicing gratitude improves happiness and health. It seems there are an array of reasons to show gratitude to healthcare workers with either a simple “thank you,” a virtual card or through applause as many New Yorkers are doing each night

Another request from healthcare workers? Do what it takes to flatten the curve. The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) assure that by staying indoors and social distancing as much as humanly possible, people can help ensure that COVID-19 doesn’t spread any faster than it already is.

Or, as Lane writes in another post, “Dear America, I stay at work for you. Please stay the f*ck home for me. Love, Syd, your ER nurse.”

How To Manage Stress and Anxiety During The Coronavirus Pandemic

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Health Alert signs posted in windows of small businesses across New Paltz. Photo by Nick Califra

Health Alert signs posted in windows of small businesses across New Paltz. Photo by Nick Califra

The coronavirus pandemic has completely changed the way you live your life. You are stuck in self-quarantine alone or with your family. Going out to the grocery store to stock up on essential items is a risky and caution-filled endeavor. You have become over-protective of your supply of toilet paper and disinfectant wipes, and run away from anyone who gets within six feet of your social distancing buffer zone.  

COVID-19 has consumed the news as infection cases and deaths rise everyday. However, the added stress on you and others in the U.S. is being somewhat lost in translation in the current media frenzy.

According to the American Psychological Association, 62 percent of Americans say they are stressed out about their financial situations and 63 percent of Americans are nervous about where the country as a whole is going in the future. These numbers will most likely rise due to the job and economic insecurity caused by the virus.

The self-quarantine element of the pandemic can also add to your possible stress as the thought of being stuck in a small space with your family, or by yourself, for weeks on end is enough to make anyone go stir-crazy.

However, this matter has not gone completely unnoticed. The Institute for Disaster Mental Health (IDMH) at SUNY New Paltz has released a tip sheet to help manage stress during the coronavirus pandemic. The document gives advice like how to identify the exact thing you are anxious about, how to reflect on it in a healthy way and how to focus on things that you are in control of.

After reading suggestions given by the IDMH, I had some questions that needed expert responses and was curious about other people’s experiences during the pandemic.

I feel I’m doing okay, should I be worried?

The answer is no, says Dr. Karla Vermeulen, the Deputy Director for the IDMH and an Associate Professor of Psychology at SUNY New Paltz.

Reactions differ on a person to person basis due to personality traits and being in different situations. Someone who suffers from higher levels of anxiety might be feeling the effects of this situation a bit more than someone who does not suffer from high levels of anxiety. The same goes for people who are currently looking after a loved one who may be more worried for their health versus someone who does not have any dependents.

“I'm a relatively sedentary person who enjoys working out here and there, so the self-isolation isn't killing me too much,” said Jared LaBrecque, a junior at SUNY New Paltz. 

However, these differing personality traits and reactions to the pandemic do not always live harmoniously. “There’s the camp of people saying ‘why are you freaking out?’ versus the camp of people saying ‘why aren’t you freaking out?,’” Vermeulen said. 

This can cause conflict and could limit your ability to support one another. The tip sheet advises compassion and sympathy and to not judge yourself or others for having different ways of coping with the current situation.

What can I do to prevent going stir crazy?

“Everything around me seems to reinforce all of the anxiety in my mind of how destructive this virus is,” said Amayah Spence, a sophomore at SUNY New Paltz.

The best thing you can do to fix this and keep your sanity is to do nothing. Limiting your news intake is absolutely critical for having good mental health during this time. “There is no reason to be monitoring news 24/7,” Vermeulen said. “It’s just a constant reminder of the stressors.”

The IDMH tip sheet urges you to choose what news you are absorbing carefully and to be aware of misinformation. The IDMH recommends the Centers for Disease Control website for accurate information and to only check for new information a few times a day.

Maintaining social connections, through things like video calls, is also quite critical to maintaining good mental health. “Just stay connected however you can with people,” said Vermuelen. “And don’t ruminate about the situation because it’s just not healthy or helpful.”

Watching a TV show or listening to music can help you deal with stress and potential insanity from self-isolation as it takes your mind off the current doom and gloom.

Lara Morales, a junior at SUNY New Paltz, has been able to mix maintaining social connections and entertainment by using the Google Chrome extension Netflix Party which allows you to watch a show or movie with your friends and web chat simultaneously.

Taking a walk around your block can also be very helpful just as long as you stay at least six-feet away from other people. According to Vermuelen, who has been baking cakes and breads in her free time, anything that changes your routine up a little bit is good.

And if you are someone whose hobbies and activities consist of depressing subject matter, fear not because you can continue doing that. According to Vermuelen, as long as that subject matter gets your mind off of the current distressing pandemic, continue doing it. This is referred to in psychology as Downward Social Comparison which is all about putting your current situation into perspective and comparing it with one that could be worse.

For example, the coronavirus may be infecting and killing more and more people each day, but at least the zombie apocalypse is not coinciding with it.

It may seem obvious and go without saying, but keeping a positive mindset is also quite important. This can be elaborated on through the use of PERMA, which entails keeping positive emotions, engaging skills, maintaining relationships, having a sense of meaning or purpose, and having feelings of accomplishment from work or hobbies.

“I am the only person in my family who hasn't lost a fair amount of income due to the pandemic so there is extra pressure to provide and pay upcoming bills,” -Takura Sophia-Blaise, a junior at SUNY New Paltz

According to Dr. Stephanie Blaisdell, the Vice President of Student Affairs at SUNY New Paltz, positive psychology can help people cope with adversity and help them flourish at the same time.

Could the United States have a collective mental snap?

“I am the only person in my family who hasn't lost a fair amount of income due to the pandemic so there is extra pressure to provide and pay upcoming bills,” said Takura Sophia-Blaise, a junior at SUNY New Paltz who alleviates stress by playing video games.

The economic downturn caused by the coronavirus, which, according to Politico, has caused people to lose their jobs and file for unemployment, is very concerning. On top of that, The American Psychological Association in 2019 saw an increase in stress on topics like climate change and terrorism while anxiety about the 2020 presidential election has increased from 52 percent in 2016 to 56 percent in 2019. With all of that in mind, could the United States have a collective mental breakdown?

It’s impossible to say for sure at this time. That being said, it’s important to always keep things in perspective. That sentiment is especially true of younger people who maybe don’t have the life experience to put all of this stress into context, said Vermuelen. 

For that context, Vermuelen thought back to living in lower Manhattan during the fallout from 9/11. “At that time, it felt like the world was ending and things would never feel okay again. And they did, ultimately, and I think that we’ll get through this in the same kind of way.”

If you are experiencing clinical levels of anxiety or depression please visit with a mental health professional. Tips on finding the right professional help can be found here. The SUNY New Paltz Psychological Counseling Center is offering services remotely and can be reached at 845-257-2920 from 8:30 a.m. to 5:00 p.m.

       

 

 

Ways for Women to use the Quarantine for Hair Care



Regimens, Products, Hairstyles and Remedies Right at Home

Photo of artwork with hair extensions found on Instagram @_tiffysbeautybar_

Photo of artwork with hair extensions found on Instagram @_tiffysbeautybar_

The lockdown does not have to interfere with your hair care according to a licensed natural hair stylist of nine years from Brooklyn, Alisha Richards. The rapid spread of COVID-19 has caused salons such as Damon’s to shut down. “It has allowed me to be more proactive about advertising and connecting with my clients during this time,” says Damon. She has been creating more instructional videos and posting them on her Instagram stories. Hair is Damon’s passion and she has ways to help you, especially if you’re struggling with your own.

Create a Regimen, Cleanse those Tresses!

In the wake of quarantine, you may not have the energy to cater to the process of doing your hair. However, a natural hair enthusiast on Youtube, Natural Niche, suggests that developing a regimen and having a set day for washing and styling your locks will help make it healthier and more manageable. The process and time for washing your hair will vary depending on its texture. “Washing consists of shampoo, deep condition for 15 to 30 minutes depending on hair damage, detangling and styling it however you want,” says Damon.  A wash day routine recommended by a natural hair blog site, The Lavish Beauty Palace, includes washing your hair in the shower with shampoo or co-washing (using conditioner only), depending on what you feel more comfortable with. Secondly, prep your locks for air drying by using a t-shirt or microfiber towel and then part your hair down the middle and then part each side of your hair into three more sections. Next step is to detangle and deep condition using your favorite conditioner and detangle your hair by starting at the ends of your hair and move upwards with a demi brush; after detangling you should braid every section of your hair and let it sit for an hour, then rinse the conditioner out of your hair. Finally, you will need to air dry for 10 hours and after the time has passed you can oil your scalp and take out the braids!

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Via Favim.com

Treat Yo’ Scalp!

Aside from hair washing, the next step of hair maintenance is moisturizing your scalp. Damon suggests that oiling your scalp is necessary, especially if it is dry. According to Healthline, dry scalp occurs when you have too little moisture which causes the skin on your scalp to become irritated and flake off. If you do not have a dry scalp, Damon recommends that you oil your scalp every other day or twice a week. If you have a dry scalp, you should oil it daily. According to an article on a beauty website, Byrdie, you should stay away from petroleum-based oils because they tend to clog pores and weigh your tresses down. Instead, you should stick to natural oils, which include but are not limited to jojoba, coconut, Jamaican Black castor, argan or avocado. According to Naturally Curly, if you use shea butter, your mane will glow thanks to its moisturizing and anti-inflammatory properties. 

Essentials!

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The products you use are an essential part of a successful regimen. According to Damon, Shea Moisture is a good brand for hair care that can be used in your routine. As previously mentioned, Jamaican Black Castor oil was suggested by Naturally Curly to treat a dry scalp. An article from the Natural Club says “It strengthens, nourishes, moisturizes, and structures your hair and, it prevents breakage, hair loss, and infections.” Damon uses Shea Moisture’s JBCO line on her clients. The line was highly recommended by Youtube naturalista, Brandi Christina when she made a video using the shampoo, conditioner, treatment masque, and leave-in conditioner. Shea moisture has more collections centered around other organic ingredients. HQ Hair made a list of various products from Shea Moisture’s other line. Some products on the list are; their Coconut and Hibiscus curl enhancing smoothie, shampoo, and curling gel souffle, Raw Shea Butter deep treatment masque, and retention shampoo, Jamaican Black Castor oil leave-in conditioner and edge treatment, and their Superfruit Complex 10 in 1 Renewal System Hair Masque. 


Braids, Twists, Styles to make you Smile -- Perfect your CRAFT

The free time you have from quarantine will allow you to explore new hairstyles. Damon suggests protective styles because they are styles that don’t require you to perform your regimen daily and helps with hair growth, such as; twist outs, cornrows, box braids, Bantu knots and more. “You have the time. What I would do is try out styles that I’ve possibly done before and had a hard time doing,” says Damon. Natural Niche also mentioned that you could use the quarantine to try out new styles that you might have been hesitant to do from being busy or from the fear of having a potentially bad hair day.  

Range of protective styles from Frizzoff.com

Range of protective styles from Frizzoff.com

Unbelievable Remedies

Eggs, avocados, bananas?! They sound like ingredients for a healthy feast, but they are actually great supplements for your mane’s maintenance. Damon listed rice water to help with growth and smoothening out the hair. Honey to help with the shine. She also listed peanut oil because it softens your hair, reduces and controls flakiness which is beneficial for your lock’s upkeep. According to Byrdie, eggs have lecithin and protein, therefore eggs give it the ability to strengthen and heal the strands and it can get rid of dandruff. According to the hair company, Hairfinity, bananas help with your hair’s manageability and moisturization. Hairfinity also says that avocados lock moisture into your hair cells and strengthens your roots. You can use these ingredients on your fro by watching DIY videos from naturalistas on Youtube and make your own. You can repair your hair in the comfort of your own home!

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Take Advantage of Your Free Time

You have the ability to become your own natural hair stylist in the midst of this crisis and cure the boredom of social distancing. “The aftermath of actually looking at yourself and seeing how good you look will make you feel better,” says Damon.